Tuesday, September 8, 2009


defeated - beaten or overcome; not victorious; "the defeated enemy" not successful; having failed or having an unfavorable outcome; "undefeated in battle"; "an undefeated team"

This is the word that someone VERY close to me used to describe her situation, defeated. She has been struggling with her weight loss for as long as I can remember. Weight Watcher, Shakes, Counting Calories etc. She always starts a new "diet" with the best intentions but a week later she is back where she started; with the "Monday will be a new day" mentality. It kills me to see her go through this and every time I see a glimmer of hope, I am in full salute "I'll Help You". Last night when she said she felt defeated, I was in shock...how are you defeated? you are not even 35 yeard old? You have the tools, you know what to do, YOU JUST HAVE TO DO IT! (thanks Nike)...I think her biggest problem is that she does not see herself actually doing it so she is settling for this life. I want to SHAKE her and tell her ENOUGH already! I did it and so can you! If I could cook her dinner every night and hold her hand while she works out, I would. If I could run 1000 miles if it meant SHE would shed the weight, I would. But this is not how weight loss works. There is no quick fix....shit I have been trying to lose the same 15lbs for as long as I can remember and I could just say F it and accept that this as good as it gets or I can wake up at 6:15 every morning and Work my bum off and make healthy choices through out the day. And hey even if I never lose these 15 pounds, at least I did not just give up and throw my hands in the air. This is not a diet, this is a LIFESTYLE!

So here I am again in Full Salute..."I am here to help you, just ask"

If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise. Anais Nin

It's funny how the world works...Here I am starting the book "Eat Pray Love" and I have someone very near to me that can benefit from reading the words on these pages

thanks for listening to me vent...moving on...

Eats and Workouts

Ayer for lunch I gave the Vodka Sauce another try but made some alterations. First I sauteed the Spinach and Mushrooms in EVOO and then I mixed it with the cooked WW Pasta while I added the Vodka Sauce, Grated RF Parm, and LICBINB. This definitely made it better!

For din din I mashed 1/2 a Banana and mixed it with 1 tbsp of PB and then scooped it inside a WW Wrap and pressed it on my Skillet (YUUUUUMS)

And for Dessert I had a Drumstick Cookie Dough Lil Drum Cone; I have been so GOOD with these!

This morning I had 1/2 a Banana before my workout and then I did EA Active for 40 minutes (I did sooooo many lunges ouch) and Level 2 of 30 Day Shred and burned a total of 505 Calories.

After my workout, I had 1 scoop of LMM

For Breakfast I just had Kashi Oatmeal with the other half of the Banana and PB with my usual coffee

Have a fabulous day everyone!



  1. Wow, I am going through that same thing with my family, namely my parents. They start things over and over again, fall off the wagon big time and then never get anywhere. It hurts me to just stand here and watch but all I can do is be supportive. They have to make up their own minds and see it for themselves. I wouldn't say they are "defeated" though. I have a friend who feels that way about her life in general though, so I know how you feel.

  2. It's really hard for me to see her go through this struggle because I know she is unhappy...I feel like I have the key to open her new life but she wont turn the lock...

  3. All you can really do is just be there for her, and show her with how you live and maybe she will be inspired.

    Unfortunately, most of us need to learn the hard way. I am one of those people so I know. Some of us never learn and live out of habit.

    I think we all have our limits, we all reach our "bottom", or when we have had enough! But usually we have it in our own time, and only then will we be able to surrender and just do it.


  4. I definitely had the defeated syndrome up until the point in college where I finally said enough is enough. I think you need to get to a certain point mentally, however, where you are really ready to take control and sacrifice in order to achieve your goals and get yourself to where you want to be. Until you reach that point, it is just impossible. The most important thing for her may be to not think of this as a diet but as a lifestyle change, as you said. This way there's no messing up or falling off the wagon. It's just life and you just need to make the best choices you can every day. I hope that she gets into this mindset soon and I empathize with you. You are a great friend though and a great role model!


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